A bride has sparked a fiery debate after she revealed that she refused to let her bridesmaid don a flattering gown because she didn't want her to draw 'attention' - adding that she chose a dress that made her pal look 'fat.'
The wife-to-be took to Redditto unleash her furious rant about her friend as she branded her bestie 'entitled.'
The 26-year-old woman revealed that her bridesmaid had begged her to allow her to sport a more fitted gown because the one she had chosen made her figure appear larger.
She admitted that she didn't want to 'cater' to her friend's 'insecurities' on her wedding day.
In the Am I The A**holesubreddit,the bride questioned if she was in the wrong for denying her friend the option of changing her dress.
A bride has sparked a fiery debate after she revealed that she refused to let her bridesmaid don a flattering gown because she didn't want her to draw 'attention' (stock image)
She titled the post: 'Am I the a**hole for making my bridesmaid wear a dress that makes her look "fat?"'
The 26-year-old explained that she was obsessed with Regency aesthetics and wanted it all over her wedding.
'I have always loved the aesthetics of the Regency era, and I wanted to incorporate it in my wedding,' she explained.
'So I decided that my bridesmaids will wear empire waist dresses, like the ones seen in Bridgerton or Pride and Prejudice. Nearly all of my bridesmaids love this idea.'
However, while the majority of her wedding party may have loved the idea, one of her pals was left feeling frustrated with the gown options.
The bride added: 'However, one of my bridesmaids is very mad at me for insisting that she wear empire waist dresses. She claims that the dress looks unflattering on her due to her body proportions.
'She has broad shoulders, a large chest, large arms, a small waist, and thin legs.'
She noted that her friend, 27, said it emphasized her insecurities.
The wife-to-be took to Reddit to unleash her furious rant about her friend as she branded her bestie 'entitled'
'She claims that due to the high waistline and her large chest, her waist appears much larger than it actually is. She also says that that type of dress emphasizes her thick arms,' the bride wrote.
'She told me that those dresses made her look fat and triggered her past body dysmorphia and insecurities.'
However, the bride said that she had no desire to change her gown and made it clear she didn't care if her pal felt uncomfortable.
She continued: 'She asked me if she could modify her dress to define her figure, but I said all the bridesmaids had to wear the same dress and I didn't want her to stand out.
'She said I was being selfish and that I wasn't taking into account other people's body types. I said she was acting extremely entitled, it's my wedding and I shouldn't have to cater to her insecurities.'
At the end of her post, the bride questioned if she was the a**hole.
People on the web flooded the comments section and shared their thoughts on the post.
Many people were enraged by the post and claimed the bride was being unreasonable
Many people were enraged by the post and claimed the bride was being unreasonable.
One person said: 'You're the a**hole. She is a person, not a prop.Go to a tailor, get it altered such that she feels better about it but it doesn't look wildly different. She'll probably actually stand out less with some subtle alterations.'
Someone else wrote: 'Another bride treating people that she supposedly cares about like props in her play. Ick. You're the a**hole.'
Another user added: 'You're the a**hole. Regency era clothing was not one pattern for all. Even the actors in Bridgerton all have different styles/patterns, yet are within the design aesthetic. Be a better friend.'
One person commented: 'You're the a**hole. Why is a dress aesthetic more important than a friend's feelings and insecurities? I'd also look horrible in a regency dress and I would be really upset if I had to pay for a dress that would make me look and feel horrible.
'Also, regency dresses look terrible on almost everyone, including the actors in Bridgerton and Pride and Prejudice, but at least they are getting paid to wear them.'
However, other users sided with the bride and said that since it was her wedding she could do what she wanted.
One person said: 'Not the a**hole. Your wedding your choice. She doesn't have to be a bridesmaid.'
However, other users sided with the bride and said that since it was her wedding she could do what she wanted
Someone else added: 'Not the a**hole. If she doesn't want to wear the dress she can drop out of the wedding. It's your day, she should be catering to you if she wants to be an important part of it.'
Another user wrote: 'Not the a**hole. Empire dresses only look good on very specific body types.
'That being said, it's your wedding and your aesthetic. I've worn a ton of very ugly bridesmaid dresses and never said a word - who cares if I look bad in some pics? The wedding is about the bride and groom, not the bridesmaids.'
'Not the a**hole. You have a dress style and scheme for your wedding. If she doesn't like the look she's free to drop out of being a bridesmaid,' one person wrote.
